Being agreeable is good thing, right?
It’s easier to hold a conversation, share your thoughts and grow relationships with agreeable people. And agreeable people are nicer, more helpful and caring than people who like to argue.
So it’s easy to see why we’re taught to be agreeable, even if it means we have to agree to disagree.
But that doesn’t always work, like when agreeing comes at expense of the truth.
Today, I was given a lesson on some Web usability best practices that were 100% wrong. I mean, I know this — I study usability and have gone to trainings on it. And it wasn’t just one mistake, either, it was two big mistakes that contribute to failure, not success.
But even though I knew better, I didn’t say anything. It just wasn’t worth it. I thought about saying something, though, but there was really no upside to it.
I may not be a totally agreeable person, at least according to Wikipedia and my predictive index. Read this:
Jason is an independent and individualistic person, strong-minded and determined. Venturesome, he will stick his neck out and take responsibility for risks when he believes he is right. He finds the challenge of new problems and new ventures stimulating, and responds to them with action. He has a lot of confidence in himself, his own knowledge, ability and decisions.
I don’t know if that makes me egotistical, or just confident, or what — my PI also says I value my own “ideas, judgments, and opinions more than he does those of most other people” — but it got me thinking: when is it right to tell someone they’re wrong?
Is ignorance really bliss? Does the truth matter?
Let me know what you think in a comment.